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Anonymous asked: dear any of you wonderful people,

i am in deep need of help. i am over whelmed. i have a secret. and i hate it. my mom has a girlfriend. i hate it so much. i hate the girl. people have told me i was a lesbian when i am NOT. i just cant stand it anymore.
2. i have this guy. he is perfect. he is the only thing on my mind. i cant even focus. he is the perfect thing in my life. we talk about secrets. we talk about how i havent kissed a guy. and how he said i was pretty. i just dont know. he is like the one and only guy. i just love him. like i love him. he has a girlfriend. but he gets like touchy with me and he like says that he loves me. advice? what does he want?
3. i get yelled at eveeryday. i cant go a day without crying. if i do he smallest thing i get yelled at. my sister is favored. i cant stand it. i want to just be loved. my parents hate me. they yell adn bitch at me for everything. i hate it. i have a horrible relationship with my parents. i just dont trust them, or want to listen to them. what do i do.
4. i cant focus during school. i am either thinking about my parents my mom or my guy. uggh.
5. my friends. i am so confused. i cant seem to find my real friends. people tell me just a bunch of bullshit and act totally different around their other friends. i just dont know who to trust. i have NO real friends. i thought i had found them, but i guess i as wrong. they tell me their friend is a bitch, then they go hang out with them? and say they cant even look at them then hang with em. they lie to me. i cant trust a single person other than myself. what do i do?
- please just give me good advice. it is all i need. just a vent. thank you SO much for listening to all of my bullcrap. youre amazing- <3 (:
p.s especially about the guy!(:

1. Sexual orientation isn’t hereditary, whoever’s saying you must be a lesbian too is an idiot. Don’t let it bother you, they’re just proving their stupidity. I’m sure your acceptance is really important to your mom, and she loves you, so I think you should really try to accept her.
2. If he has a girlfriend but he’s being touchy with you, chances are he’s not the greatest guy. I mean think about it, obviously he’s still with this girl for a reason, whatever that may be. But if he really loves his girlfriend, he wouldn’t go around hitting on other girls. If he doesn’t love his girlfriend, there’s something shady about the fact that he hasn’t ended things. Be really careful.
3. Try sitting down with your parents and telling them about how you feel. Maybe they don’t realize how harsh they’re being. Your parents do love you. Explain to them that the way they’ve been treating you is harming your relationship with them, and really consider their reasons as to why they’ve been yelling at you. I’m sure you guys can come to a compromise with things if you just talk it out.
4. See above advice lol ^
5. True friends are hard to find. To be honest I think you should just be upfront to your friends and directly point out the fact that they’re being two-faced. And I guess you could try talking to new people who seem nice and make new friends that way. I’m sure you’ll find someone worthwhile. :)

Best wishes,

Roselle.

Anonymous asked: I've been friends with this guy for a few years. He moved out of state. We webcammed, talked on the phone, and texted for the majority of everyday for a few months. He told me he had feelings for me and I had developed feelings for him as well. We continued talking for a few more months. He decided to move back to the state I live in. We were fine and everything. He got a different girlfriend and we didn't talk for about a week. He broke up with her and apologized over and over for hurting me. We hung out for a few months being just friends and one day sitting in his car he hugged me and kissed me on the neck. I leaned in and started kissing him. He smiled and as I was getting out of the car he said "thank you." He seemed to sound relieved. I was happy. We hung out with his friends the next day and he wrapped his arm around me and hugged me. We dropped off his friends and drove to my house sitting in my driveway he hugged me and said "you give the best hugs." I smiled and made eye contact. I obviously wanted him to kiss me. He leaned in and then pulled away. I got out of the car and he yelled "I miss you already."
That was a month ago. He still flirts and holds my hand and hugs me and grips my waist and smiles at me. He doesn't have other girls he talks to. I don't know If he's just too shy to make a move or if he's just too nice to tell me he's not interested. Should I tell him the way I feel? I really don't want to ruin the friendship because he's my bestfriend.

It sounds to me that he’s too shy to make a move, because if he wasn’t interested I don’t think he’d be acting the way he does. You should try being the one to make the moves. Just try kissing him again. You can try to make him feel more comfortable, and he’ll open up when he’s ready.

And if that doesn’t work, just tell him how you feel. I honestly don’t think it would do any harm to your friendship, and it’s probably the easiest way to find out whether or not he’s really interested.

Good luck!

Roselle.

Anonymous asked: Dear whoever
Kay well, I got into a big fight with my "best friend" and I don't want fight with her. At the same time I'm starting to hate her, She 's way over her head and thinks she's the best person out there and she has that "Sucks for you if you leave me attitude". She has a boyfriend and she's always whining on how she never gets to hang with him when they're in the same class and I like this guy from a different class and I never get to see him. She acts way older than me and when I do something wrong she makes me feel worse than talking to me. It's like she doesn't even want me there anymore. We used to be such close friends but now she has her "korean speaking buddy" She completely drifted away from me. So I just kinda ignore her now, should I keep going or should talk it over. I'm just sick of her and her attitude. it's like I'm never right to her. Plus, I'm pretty sure when I tell her what I feel, she won't listen, she'll just cry, but she won't change. I told her all my problems and she cried with me but she never tries to do anything about it. She also freaks out about the simplest things ever and it's like she just throws problems at me so then she'll feel better and when I try to say something, she contradicts me. NEVER am I right with her. I'm sorry if it's too much but I just really need someone to know other than my other friends at school. What should I do with her?

She doesn’t sound like much of a friend to me. Friends are there for each other, and they care for each other. I would try talking it over with her. Tell her how you feel, because maybe she doesn’t even realize the attitude she has. If she really cares about your friendship, she’ll stop. And if she’s still gonna be a bitch about it after you talk to her, then she’s not worth keeping around anyway. Friends shouldn’t make friends unhappy.

Roselle.

Anonymous asked: Is it sad that I'm starting to really really like this guy that I met on Tumblr? :3

Not at all, but remember to be realistic!

Anonymous asked: Just want to send this out to the anonymous person who wrote about liking her guy best friend. I'm in a very similar situation. I told him twice before that I want to be more than friends, and I haven't held back in making him feel that I care for him deeply. However, our relationship is still just friends, no matter how much I want it to be. Friends say that we look like we're together, but I guess that' because we're so close. From experience, even if you say it so many times, you can't really tell what's gonna happen. I'm having a hard time moving on & even if I say I will, I just can't, not right now. I guess all I can say is be there for him, tell him again but if he still says no, it's time you start getting over him as a crush, be just his friend and find someone else. It's hard. I'm still trying.

Anonymous asked: Dear whoever gets to this first,
Ok so I have liked one of my best guy friends for the longest. And my friends (which are his friends too including his sister) say he does too. But we're both too shy to tell each other. I told him how I felt sometime in June and he told me he didn't feel the same. But now we've gotten closer and I don't have the courage to tell him with the fear of getting rejected again. But if like everyone says that he does like me shouldn't he tell me? Idk I'm confused on what to do

Tell him how you feel. Ask him if he likes you. If he denies it tell him others have been saying that he does. If he denies it again then you must accept it and move on. But he may like you. You won’t know what to do after you ask and talk. 

Good luck.

-Marta

Anonymous asked: Ok, so i've kinda always had a crush on this guy and we got drunk the other night and hooked up. we pretty much did everything but sex. im not sure what to do now because honestly, the only thing i want is it to not be awkward or him to think im all attached to him or upset about the stuff we did. but its difficult because i'm terribly awkward already and not very talkative. but also i cant help but feel like he probably regrets all the stuff we did,because i just think he's so out of my league.

I can’t see what is the question or problem here. I know it may be difficult but talk to him to see where you two stand. That way you can progress from there. You won’t know how he feels. He may want to be with you, or it was a drunken fling you will never know until you ask him. 

Good luck.

-Marta

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Anonymous asked: I liked my ex for 5 years. We had an on and off relationship and then dated for a couple of months but he decided he wanted to leave me behind when college started. Eventually, I moved on and now I've been with my current boyfriend for almost a year and I love him very much. He gives me a sense of peace I never had with my ex. My ex has also been with someone for a few months, and he seems happy. I've been keeping in touch with him because we still care about each other, in a way that no breakup could change. But sometimes, I get lost in our conversations and it feels like old times. That made me uneasy because I didn't want to risk getting feelings for him again. One day, his girlfriend got injured badly and he was telling me how helpless he felt and that he cried. Idk why but I got angry. I mean, he may not care but I'm still his ex. I’m not gonna be an idiot and comfort him while he cries over a girl. So I told him that we couldn't be friends anymore. I wanted to believe that we could get close without getting too close so I could still have him in my life but I guess I still haven't healed. When I told him this, we ended up having a very honest conversation. He told me that sometimes he knows that his gf isnt right for him and that I was "the one that got away" and that there are times he missed me as more than a friend. We both knew that if we talked to each other and spent time enough time together, all these buried feelings would shoot up to the surface. That’s why we’re not talking anymore. But I don’t know what to do. I'm in love with my boyfriend but my ex is my first love. That person you cant help but have feelings for.

Not talking and keeping your distance from your ex is the best way of moving on and being happy with your boyfriend. You will always have feelings for your first love. You must tell him that so that you can be content with your relationship with your boyfriend. Because your ex cannot still come to you with problems. He needs to find others that will fill that gap now. 

Hope this has helped and good luck.

-Marta

Anonymous asked: I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years now. For the first year, everything was great. He was caring, loving and supporting . He is also a good "dad" to my son. Previously he has said that he is there for me and we can get through anything. I lost my job about 4 months ago. I have been trying to find something, but the job market where I live is terrible. I have been going out and putting applications in with no luck. He is constantly nagging me about getting a job, and today told me that he's not waiting forever. We haven't had a physical relationship in almost five months. He has also told me in the past that he didn't know if he'd ever want to get married again (he's been married once, I've been married twice). He's had his job for seven years and his prior job for fifteen years. I don't know if this relationship is worth fighting for anymore. Any thoughts / ideas are welcome. Thank you.

Talk to him and tell him how you feel. You both need to talk about how you feel and how the actions of each other have affected you. See how you feel after having your heart to heart and whether or not you think the relationship is worth saving. 

Good luck and hope everything works out.

-Marta

Anonymous asked: For anyone.
I borke up with my boyfriend just this Friday and we've been together for 10 (going to 11) months. Now, there is this other guy who's making me feel really happy lately and I'm getting really attached to him and it's like he doesn't want to talk to me anymore and me ex might think that I like the other guy when I'm not sure if I do and what if the guy I'm getting attached to is thinking that I'm only using him to get over my ex. I'm really confused right now.
Anyways, thanks.

Basically step away from both guys and see what you want and need in life. If you have recently broken up with your boyfriend give it time to heal between you too. Try not to get involved with others until you are ready and happy with yourself.  You will then see if you still have feelings for your ex or this other guy. Right now your head is messed up. Give it time and a relaxed approach.

Good luck.

-Marta